Creating Happiness

Make The Most Of Each Moment

Each moment of our lives offers amazing opportunities to enjoy, appreciate, achieve, create and explore interesting thoughts and ideas - if we use our time and attention wisely.

We can use this precious series of moments to enrich our well-being, create happiness and spiritual success...

Or we can squander our time, do the exact opposite and manufacture misery, hate, anger, distress and despair.

When we cherish time, our lives and these incredible opportunities we want to make the most of each moment.

Focusing time and attention wisely on positive thoughts, actions and objectives that build happiness and spiritual success is a central, key organizing concept of the Happiness Habit.

We know Thoughts Have Consequences, because Our Focus of Attention Determines Our Feelings and Whatever We Focus on Expands in our minds. Remembering Our Time And Attention Are Limited and Urgency Creates Energy, Determination, Decisiveness and Focus.

Each time you look at a clock, your watch or think about time, ask yourself, "What's the best use of my time and attention right now? (This is a variant of Alan Lakein's classic line, "What's the best use of my time right now?")

Time spent unhappy unnecessarily is wasted time.

Continually trying to get the most joy from our moments and using time to enjoy, appreciate and achieve are powerful ways to create happiness and a happy life!

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Negative Judgments Propel Pain

Negative Judgments Fuel All Fear, Anger, Anxiety and Anguish.ative statements like: I'm so stupid!  I can't do it!  This is too hard!  I will never survive! cause much of our emotional pain.

The secret to dealing with Negative Judgments well is to ask, "Can this negative judgment help me in some way?"

If the answer is YES, turn the Negative Judgment into a series of positive action items that will help you to succeed and be happy.

If the answer is NO, the Negative Judgment can NOT help you, reject it and redirect your time, energy and attention to thoughts, actions and objectives that help you build happiness and spiritual success.

The example we often use is: "I'm going to be late!" is a negative judgment that produces anxiety. It can help you if you turn it into a series of positive action items:  "It's 7:30 now, I need to watch the clock carefully, collect my things, make sure I don't leave anything behind so I can walk out the door by ten of eight."  See how it works?

Other negative statements prompt you to ask, "What can I do to build confidence, gain competence, get help and learn new skills?"

If the negative judgment is just running you down and can't help you in any way, reject it! It's making you miserable for no reason. 

Minimizing Misery and Building Happiness and Spiritual Success are keys to Creating A Happy Life!

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Misery Is Meant To Make Us Move

Misery Is Uncomfortable and Unpleasant for Good Reasons - Misery Is Meant To Make Us Move and Change To End the Misery.

We are not meant to stay stuck in bad situations, we are meant to make changes to stop our pain.

What can we change?  We can change our thoughts, our actions, our feelings or we can change a combination of all three.

Change Actions - Sometimes we need to change what we are doing. We may be engaging in dangerous, dysfunctional or disrespectful behavior that is damaging our health, well-being or infuriating others.  We can end our misery by changing our actions.

Change Thoughts - We may be creating our own horror shows by giving excessive time and attention to unnecessary, non-productive negativity, problems and dramas.  We feel much better when we stop dwelling on difficulties and focus attention on positive activities, objectives and opportunities.

Change Feelings - Bad experiences can create anger, anxiety or avoidance toward otherwise positive options and opportunities.  Past pain prompts us to react in negative, irrational or counter productive ways.  When we recognize and see the real sources of our negative feelings, we can decide not to be dominated and directed by them in the future.

Outside Events and Other People - We often blame outside sources for our misery.  There is no question that devastating events and difficult people can cause great emotional pain.  Part of the challenge of dealing with the successfully is to decide that you are not going to help them hurt you.

Revolt and Rebel against giving them control of your thoughts, actions and feelings.  Say to yourself, "I am not giving you control of my feelings.  I am not going to help you hurt me."  It will hurt a lot less and you will bounce back more quickly and easily.

This does not mean revolt against the situation itself, which may not always be a wise idea.  We often have to smile and nod nicely to survive and thrive. 

It does mean protecting yourself from unnecessary or protracted emotional pain and wrapping yourself in a big warm hug whenever you need it.

We Make A Lot Of Our Own Misery - Misery isn't just something that "happens" to us.  We create a lot of our own misery ourselves by what we do, how we think and feelings we habitually hold. 

The good news is, this means we can change it and end it!

Minimizing Misery Is a Key To Creating Happiness and a Happy Life.

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Move From Problems To Solutions Quickly

Problems are an inevitable part of life, they are also the primary source of our emotional pain.

A Key To Creating Happiness and a Happy Life Is To Move from Problems to Solutions Quickly.

So long as we focus our time and attention on problems, what's wrong and how terrible it is, we continue to feel anxious, distressed, angry or sad.

When we focus on possible positive solutions we feel much better.

Positive solutions allow us to resolve difficulties, achieve valued goals,  build new skills and prepare for future successes.

This is an illustration of The First Law of Happiness - Our Focus Determines Our Feelings. Focusing on bad things makes us feel sad, angry or anxious.

When we turn our attention toward good things we feel much better - energized, empowered and enthusiastic.

Beware: Problems are sometimes very hard to let go of because they are powerful sources of energy, albeit negative energy, for us.  Problems easily become our own internal horror shows.  The more we think about them, the larger, more overwhelming and frightening they become.

This is an illustration of the Second Fundamental Happiness Fact - Whatever We Focus On Expands In Our Consciousness.  Whatever we give time and attention to grows in our reality.

There is a very important difference between worrying about problems and solving them.

The best solutions often lie outside of the problem's parameters.  So long as we continue to stare at problems we often can't see those successful solutions.

That's why it is so important to detach from problems and start seeking successful solutions quickly.

Moving from Problems to Possible Successful Solutions Quickly is a Key to Happiness and Spiritual Success. When we solve problems, we salve the problem's pain.

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Practice Being YOUR Best

Visualizing yourself performing YOUR best and doing well is energizing, empowering, encouraging and inspiring. 

It provides clear, compelling images of person you want to be, what you want to achieve and how you want to approach life.

To Create Happiness Practice Being YOUR Best

When you continually try to Do YOUR Best, Be YOUR Best and Feel YOUR Best, you make YOUR Best effort and raise the probability you will achieve the Best possible results.

The key is to focus on YOUR Best and Not someone else's Best.  Learn from others, especially star performers, but avoid critical, self depreciating comparisons that corrode confidence.

You will never perform well or feel good if you focus on failure, how badly you feel or how poorly you think you are doing.  Recognize and reject stinking thinking. 

Focus On What You Want To Achieve, then Energize and Encourage Yourself to Attain It.

Practice Being YOUR Best - Continually try to Do YOUR Best, Feel YOUR Best and Be At Your Best all of the time.  You will feel good, perform well and YOUR Best will continue to get better.

Ask yourself these questions:

• What is the best I can do?  (Given my resources, competing goals, constraints and limitations.)

• Is there a better way I can do it?

• How would this be achieved by an expert?       

• How can I enhance my enjoyment, experiences and expand my ability to excel and do well?

When you try to do your best, you can let go of results knowing you couldn't have done any more - you did YOUR Best. 

If you have had a mediocre day when you didn't try very hard and you didn't get very good results you know the danger of lackluster efforts.

Focusing on doing YOUR Best and being YOUR Best helps you to feel YOUR Best.

Practice Being YOUR Best All Of The Time. It's a great way to create a happy life and get the best possible results!

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Choose Your Mood And Attitude

Imagine Being Able To Feel Great Any Time, Any Place, Even All the Time. Wouldn't that be wonderful? 

You can do it right now if you decide to choose your moods and attitudes and intentionally embrace emotions that help you to be happy.

You don't have to look outside of yourself to find things or people to lift your spirits,  you can create happiness from within right now, at any time, in any place. The process is simple and gets easier and more powerful with practice.

Take a moment, detach from what you are doing smile, giggle and wiggle your toes. Take a long slow deep breath and fill your lungs as full of air as you comfortably can, relax and let the air flow effortlessly out. Smile, giggle, wiggle your toes and do it again.

Now continuing to breath slowly and deeply, picture yourself smiling and giggling, like you are looking at yourself in a mirror. Do you see yourself smiling, laughing and giggling?

If you are doing this right you should be genuinely smiling too because most people can't picture themselves happy and laughing without smiling too.

Now think of a time when you felt absolutely marvelous for no reason at all. Do you remember a day when you felt great for no good reason? Remember that time in vivid detail. Recall how wonderful you felt, remember those feelings vibrantly, deeply and acutely.

Consciously connect with those wonderful feelings, embrace them, feel them again deeply and completely. Now consciously project those marvelous feelings. Radiate them all around you.

Take a couple more long, slow deep breaths, relax and exhale. Smile and wiggle your toes.

Continue to consciously take on those wonderful feelings. Embrace them, feel them, make them your own and then project them.  You will feel much better!

So long as you recall those great feelings, embrace them, project them and make them your own you will feel good. Use this process along with a spirit of Revolt And Rebellion to break away from bad emotions, to restore your well-being and to prepare to move forward positively and enthusiastically.

Resolve not to let bad things or difficult people hurt you or control your feelings.  Will you ever feel 100% as good as you did on that special day?  No, but you will feel much better and that's what is important.

Choose Your Mood And Your Attitude To Feel Good, Happy And Successful At Any Time, In Any Place.

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