We are not meant to stay stuck in bad situations, we are meant to make changes to stop our pain.
What can we change? We can change our thoughts, our actions, our feelings or we can change a combination of all three.
Change Actions - Sometimes we need to change what we are doing. We may be engaging in dangerous, dysfunctional or disrespectful behavior that is damaging our health, well-being or infuriating others. We can end our misery by changing our actions.
Change Thoughts - We may be creating our own horror shows by giving excessive time and attention to unnecessary, non-productive negativity, problems and dramas. We feel much better when we stop dwelling on difficulties and focus attention on positive activities, objectives and opportunities.
Change Feelings - Bad experiences can create anger, anxiety or avoidance toward otherwise positive options and opportunities. Past pain prompts us to react in negative, irrational or counter productive ways. When we recognize and see the real sources of our negative feelings, we can decide not to be dominated and directed by them in the future.
Outside Events and Other People - We often blame outside sources for our misery. There is no question that devastating events and difficult people can cause great emotional pain. Part of the challenge of dealing with the successfully is to decide that you are not going to help them hurt you.
Revolt and Rebel against giving them control of your thoughts, actions and feelings. Say to yourself, "I am not giving you control of my feelings. I am not going to help you hurt me." It will hurt a lot less and you will bounce back more quickly and easily.
This does not mean revolt against the situation itself, which may not always be a wise idea. We often have to smile and nod nicely to survive and thrive.
It does mean protecting yourself from unnecessary or protracted emotional pain and wrapping yourself in a big warm hug whenever you need it.
We Make A Lot Of Our Own Misery - Misery isn't just something that "happens" to us. We create a lot of our own misery ourselves by what we do, how we think and feelings we habitually hold.
The good news is, this means we can change it and end it!
Minimizing Misery Is a Key To Creating Happiness and a Happy Life.
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